pole dancing

Many of you may be wondering, “OK, I get all the sensuality is being in touch with the world around you stuff. But I really bought this book because I want to be sexier. Did I get ripped off?”

Unequivocally, NO! Being in touch with your sensuality is also about being in touch with who you are as a sexual being. It’s all part and parcel. You can’t separate the body, mind and soul.

Many of us, especially women, have lost touch with the sensuality of our bodies. There are many reasons for this:

· fear of being seen as a slut

· sexual abuse

· caregiving everyone else and leaving self to last

· unfulfilling sex lives

· discomfort with being seen as a sexual being

· unfamiliarity with our own bodies and what we like

· taboos around being sexual

Which one of these, or combination of them, is you?

Working through body and mind issues around this side of sensuality can be extremely difficult. That’s one reason I love teaching pole dancing. It cuts through all the mind chatter and allows a woman to just be in her juice, her sex, her body, her all over sensuality. When we dance for ourselves with no one to impress, no audience, no male involvement, it becomes a completely new creature. We become a completely new creature!

There is a freedom and magic that happens on the pole. The pole doesn’t judge, he is simply there to support you on your journey. There are many moves you can learn on the pole ranging in difficulty which we will look at. You can do everything from simply walking around to spinning and turning upside down. And it really doesn’t matter! It doesn’t even matter if you’re doing them perfectly. You want to be safe and dance in a way that won’t be harmful to you and you don’t want to go upside down before you’re ready and land on your head! Once you put aside the need to be perfect, to work hard so you can do the “hard” stuff and simply enjoy the movement, the support and the music, your sensuality will emerge. The mind chatter will leave. The personal judgment will subside. The girl who wants to play and feel will peak her head around the corner then come out and give it her all.

I have seen this happen to so many people that I can say without hesitation that it will happen to you! One student, LeeAnne (names changed) said: “ I just wanted to thank you for doing the pole dancing lessons. I’ve noticed a difference in myself right from how I walk to how I think of my body. Even my husband has noticed a change! It’s amazing how pole dancing has made me feel sexy, even after 3 kids!” Coreen says: “Christie, since having you in my home for a pole dancing party the perception of myself, has changed. I am not JUST a mom or a wife, I am a WOMAN. My life has changed and I am now willing to step out of the box. I have even posed for boudoir photos. (for my husband of course). Thank you for inspiring me, and others, the way you do, with the simple introduction to "Mister Romeo" (what I call my pole).

Don’t have a pole? No problem. They are readily available. I recommend Li’l Minx brand which you can purchase on my website www.edmontonpolefun.com as they are the highest quality on the market and are available in a number of different types to fit your situation.

Not quite ready to go to that expense? We will discuss chair, floor and wall moves as well - all of which can give you the same benefits as the pole. It’s all about playing. Let your sensual kitten out for a romp and see what happens!

Activities

It’s not unusual to have moments of feeling unsensual. Actually, most of us probably feel that way most of the time. That’s mainly due to our misrepresentation of what sensuality is. And it can also be that we truly aren’t involved in what’s going on around us – sensually.

We are incredibly adept in our society at cutting ourselves off. We’re cut off from our emotions. We ignore what we see going on with others around us. We drive everywhere we go and remove ourselves from the environment. We eat out and cease to participate in the sensuality of food. We watch TV instead of reading or talking. We wear our iPods and talk on our cell phones wherever we go so we don’t pay attention to what’s around us.

The movie theatres have created the perfect awkward first date place. Nothing to say? No problem, there’s plenty to distract you. Read the magazine provided in the lobby. Watch the trivia and gossip on the screen. The only chance of interaction is the possibility of touching hands in the popcorn box. But the 2 drink, 2 popcorn combo has even taken care of that.

All of these seemingly innocent things have succeeded in cutting us off from each other and ourselves. How can we get back in touch?

HELPING TO RETURN TO SENSUALITY ACTIVITIES:

Over the next month, choose one of these each week. The challenge will be to continue to do each one more than a day, if you even make a day.

1. Take a walk. Leave your headphones and cell phone behind. This can be in nature or in your neighborhood, it doesn’t matter. Just get out and observe. Who in your community has a dog? Are there a lot of children? Which houses have great curb appeal? Who has a beautiful garden? Where is the mailbox and the bus stop? In the woods, what flowers do you see? Look for berries and bugs. Notice the moss. Listen for water. What do you smell? Can you identify any bird calls?

2. Eat at the table without the TV. Whether you live alone or with others, practice enjoying your food. Take the time to chew. Feel the texture. What spices can you identify? What makes this particular food appealing to you – or not. If you’re with others, enjoy the fine art of dinner conversation.

3. Practice the art of listening. Go out with someone to a quiet restaurant, coffee or tea shop. Or have tea at home. Ask the other person questions. Resist the urge to jump in and give your opinions and advice. See what you can learn about this person – their values and struggles. Ask if you can share what you’ve observed and ask for feedback.

4. Make dinner. Don’t use any prepared foods or mixes. Buy everything fresh. If you have a farmer’s market in your city, use it. Experience the sights, sounds and smells around you. Talk to the vendors and learn about what it takes to be an independent food producer. Ask for their input into your plans. Cut the vegetables and meat yourself. Use fresh herbs if available. Keep it simple if you don’t usually cook, more elaborate if you do. Take your time and experience every step. Eat it with candlelight and flowers, preferably with a friend or loved one.

5. Dress in clothes that make you feel wonderful. Wear colors and fabrics you love. Choose articles that, when you look in the mirror, make you think - I look great! Wear sexy underwear and great shoes. Do your hair and wear fragrance.

6. Make eye contact with people when speaking to them and smile. Make sure to do this in a friendly, not creepy, way. If you make eye contact with a stranger, smile. If someone holds the door open for you or does some other random act of kindness, look them in the eye, smile and say “Thank you”.

7. Draw. Do a craft. Do something creative. Enjoy the process without having an end result in mind.

8. Read. Curl up in your favorite chair with a good book – either a previously loved one or a recommendation from a friend. Lose yourself in the moment and let your imagination roam.

9. Go out with friends and leave your cell phone behind. We used to go out all the time without any form of contact. Experience that freedom again.

10. Put the iPod or other world tune-out device in a drawer and go about your day. See how much you can observe that you may have otherwise missed. Notice smells and colors. What or who have you passed by everyday without a glance? What interesting things have you missed?

11. Spend time with children. Go to a playground. Volunteer with a children’s charity. Spend time with your own kids (or nieces/nephews/grandkids or friend’s kids) and play.

12. People watch. Sit in a park or coffee shop and notice their moods and body language. Make up back stories for the fun of it.

These seemingly simple things will bring the awareness of the world, and thus sensuality, back in your life.

Introduction

This blog is for you if you know someone who:

• - Goes out in public in their jammies
• - Thinks crocs are a fashion statement
• - Has forgotten how beautiful they are
• - Has lost touch with the world around them
• - Dresses the same as they did in high school, which was 20 years ago
• - Hasn’t had a decent haircut in years
• - Rushes about their lives and crams too much in a day
• - Looks after everyone else and forgets about themselves
• - Thinks fashion is whatever is on sale at Wall Mart
• - Wears socks and sandals
• - Has never had a bra fitting
• - Walks like a man (and is a woman)
• - Goes through life isolating themselves with technology
• - Never takes time to smell the flowers
• - Is always late
• - Has a negative attitude

Or maybe that person is YOU!