Newness

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Epiphany

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It's Christmas Time - EEP!

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Suggestions

In conjunction with the new branding (see Meow), I need a new picture.

Any ideas? No catsuits, please. Use your creativity.

I'll send the best idea my eBook "30 Days to Sensuality" as a thank you!

Meow

What a difference a week makes!

Last week I met with (yet another) coach. This one is one of those coaches that, in general, I would never get to talk to as his fee for an hour is about what I make in a month! When I get an opportunity to talk to someone like that in person for free, you can bet I'll jump on it!

This last quarter I've been working on a couple of principles. One is "Kill the Turtle" - stop procrastinating, jump in and git 'er done! The amount that I've accomplished these last couple of months with that in mind has been truly staggering. There are things that have been on my to do list for many months that are finally done. I have curtains up, less stuff in my garage, a little extra money in my pocket and a more organized workspace and so much more. Phew!

The other is "Twist your head" - look at things from a new and different perspective. This one was a little harder to, pardon the pun, wrap my head around. How do you see things differently? I can only see things the way I see them. That's where someone else's head comes in handy.

I met with Berny Dohrman twice last week and both times he made my head spin. The difference between the way someone who makes 30 million a year thinks vs. someone who made 30 grand really is night and day. It took him moments to understand my business, open my eyes to new ideas and totally rebrand it. As a friend said of her meeting with him - it's like he had my business plan right in front of him!

So, welcome to the NEW and IMPROVED. He gave me a name that will make my business more accessible, draw more people in and open the door for a myriad of angles.

One thing I was denying in my approach is my naughty side. As discussed a couple of posts ago, sex is a big part of my life and my identity. I was trying to "clean up" Sensuality by making it less about sex. I still believe that Sensuality is misunderstood and about so much more than we give it credit for. However, how I am is very sexual and if I deny that part to try to make things more palatable, I'm not being true to me.

One thing many have told me is that my presence gives them the permission to play bigger. A friend told me the other night that he misses having me around because I have always been an inspiration to him to not hold back and to be completely honest and open and fearless. Part of the reason people feel this way around me is because I am completely in touch with all sides of me, including my sexuality and am unafraid to express it.

Whenever I meet someone for the first time, it generally takes very little time before they are sharing some intimate details about themselves, and very often those have to do with their fears or hang ups around sex.

I'm a nice girl. I am sweet and big hearted, forgiving and easy going. However, I'm also a bad girl who loves the down and dirty.

Berny came up with a name that covers all of this: BAD KITTY. Adding the tagline JOY POWER expresses what I want to help people towards more succintly than my cumbersome and always needing to be explained SENUSUALITY COACH.

BAD KITTY and JOY POWER conjur an image. To some it conjurs porn, but that is the minority. It draws people in, they want to know more. As Berny said as we closed, people will be curious and be drawn to you now and THEN you can explain to them what you do and tell them what you want instead of explaining and then hoping they'll come along.

Thank you Berny for twisting my head backwards and helping me see things totally new.

Pass along the BAD KITTY to your friends! This is a movement! We need more BAD KITTIES spreading their JOY POWER to the world!

From THE BAD KITTY: JOY POWER.... BE BEAUTIFUL, BE YOU!

www.thebadkitty.com

Confusion

People have funny reactions to the word "sensuality". It is one of those simple words that has created a whole environment around it, and it's not all positive.

I have had a business coach for several years. He's seen me through a lot of things. He's seen a lot of growth and shifts in the way I approach my life and my ideas of business. When I announced myself last year at a meeting as "Your Sensuality Coach" he wasn't entirely, shall we say, thrilled. Even now I'm not entirely sure that he understands what it's all about. He has some baggage around the word that prevents him seeing what I'm presenting clearly. He's still a big help and I value his input, but I don't think he really understands my passion.

I met another coach last week. As soon as I told her my business idea and about my website, she got very excited. She understood immediately and wanted to work with me. She could tell I would be fun to work with - as of course I am (wink) - and I know we're going to have a great relationship.

The fact that one of these people is male and one is female, means nothing. I have met men who get what I have to say immediately. I have met women who swallow their tongues as soon as I say the S word.

What I find most intriguing is how often, during conversation, the word will change. The other party will begin with the word Sensuality and then unconsciously at some point change it to SeXuality. At first that really bothered me, but now it amuses me.

That is part of my mission. Helping people understand the difference. The root word of Sensuality is SENSE. When we are in full awareness of ourselves and the world around us we are Sensual. Yes, that does sometimes include sexuality as we discussed last week. But it is so much more!

When I feel good about myself, when I'm in a positive mood; my Sensuality shines through. I notice that people react to me differently. I become more open and friendly. I invite people in without a word and they want to talk to me, be near me, to know what's going on. Sensuality is a magnet. It draws in people, it attracts what you want into your life. It is the key to having a full life.

Since becoming in touch with who I am as a fully Sensual being so much has changed. My income is improved. I own a house and a new car for the first time ever. I have more and closer friendships. I am creating what I want in life and having a blast doing it!

I love being Sensual! How are you doing? Come with me so we can all BE BEAUTIFUL. I want to see you, so BE YOU!

www.beingsensual.com

Sexy

I love men. And women, for that matter. All bodies are amazing. When everyone is naked, it's like all judgments disappear. Everyone is equal no matter what their body issues might be. I often wonder how people like doctors, massage therapists and others who get to see people naked all the time can lose the wonder of seeing nakedness.

This post is about sex. FINALLY! some of you are saying. I KNEW that this whole "sensual" thing was just a cover. I KNEW it was really about SEX!

Well, sorry, not quite. Yes, sensuality and sexuality are related. They can't help but be. We are sexual creatures - some of us more than others - and when we are fully expressing ourselves in our sensuality, of course sex is going to come into it.

All parts of our lives come with rules and expectations. From table etiquette to gender roles, we lives by a set of standards that have been handed down generation to generation. Most of the standards/rules we live by are hundreds of years old. Society does change and evolve, but the evolution takes time to pervade the entire culture.

For example, there is a lot of confusion around dating. Who picks up the bill? How do you decide who is going to do it? Do you take turns? Does the one who did the inviting cover it? Is it always the man? Does it mean a woman is a user if she likes the man to pick up the cheque? Do you kiss on the first date? How long before it's OK to sleep together? No wonder we're all so confused!

Sensuality is about releasing those standards. Take an objective look at them and see which ones actually work for you and which ones don't. You may be surprised how much you're doing out of habit, comfort or because you thought you had no choice.

So what on earth does this have to do with sex!? Where else in our lives do we have more rules than around our sexuality? From the fundamentalist no sex before marriage to the discomfort around fetishes to the debate around gay marriage. All you have to so is say the word S-E-X in a room and you will hear gasps, see people holding their breaths or inspire giggles. Things don't change no matter how old and experienced we are.

Mention sex when I'm in the room and you'll get a wide smile and a long conversation. Next to self expression and sensuality, sex is my favorite topic.

This wasn't always the case. I was one of those fundamentalists. My head was all wrapped around guilt when it came to sex. I was so naive that at 18 I didn't know what a blow job was. In grade 12 my friend and I chose a play to do for drama class that was full of double - and single - entendres and peppered with references to phallus. I had no idea that it was a play about sex until my mom freaked out and insisted the school pull the play off the shelves.

I didn't succeed in the no sex before marriage ideal. Everytime I "sinned" I felt incredible guilt, but I just couldn't stop. I tried, I had good intentions, I prayed for strength and forgiveness. I made myself miserable.

Now that I truly understand my nature and am in touch with my sensuality I know why this was such a struggle. It simply is not in my DNA. I LOVE SEX! There are no two ways around it. I am a highly sexual woman who needs it in her life to be fully satisfied.

Not everyone is like this and I'm certainly not suggesting that to be Sensual you must love having sex 3x a day. Being Sensual is knowing what works for YOU. What works for me is sex as much as possible and as often as possible.

When you are fully expressing your Sensuality, you will know what you need. You will come from a place of strenght rather than need. You will be able to articulate what you want clearly. You will radiate a confidence that is irresistably attractive. You may attract attention you don't like and you will know how to deal with it while remaining present and true to who you are.

Sex is natural, sex is good - not everybody does it, but everybody should. Sorry, couldn't help but channel a little George Micheal there! It's time to shed the expectations, standards and crazy rules around sex. Find what works for you. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Accept what works for other people and understand that that is their Sensuality.

When we are all living in our true selves, sex will no longer be an issue. It will be what it is. A really great past time!

Of course, like any sport, Sex has it's risks, so play safe, people!

BE BEAUTIFUL, BE YOU - in all areas of your life.

www.beingsensual.com